Hi guys!

So I know it’s been a while since I last posted and I apologize. I’ve been super busy with changing jobs, staying on top of school, my acting class, and a bunch of other stuff. But I promise that I did not forget about you guys 😊!

Something I’ve been thinking a lot about lately are the relationships that I have in my life. More specifically the types of relationships and how meaningful those relationships are to me. I’ve always considered myself to be an introvert who can participate in extroverted activities when I feel confident, safe, and secure enough to do so. And if I’m being honest, that’s very rare.

So naturally when I think of meaningful relationships, I think of my family. But then I think of the value of the relationship I have with each member of my family, and I’m not sure how meaningful they are to me. I love and care about my family very much, but I also tend to spend very little time with them. [Read more…]

Hey guys!

So lately I’ve been having some major problems with my skin. I’ve always struggled with having clear skin. Not the struggle where my skin is just acne prone, but the struggle where I just can’t keep it clear. Instead I have to deal with the annoying break outs in random areas of my face during random times of the month. The thing that really sucks about this is usually when I get it clear I can only keep it clear for about a month before I start breaking out again. Bummer I know, but it’s a natural part of life.

And there are various reasons as to why I break out. Sometimes it’s due to a poor diet, not keeping up with my usual water intake, and even when that time of the month comes.

Fun fact, for most women a pimple on your chin is a sign that Mother Nature in on her way to visit you. It’s kind of silly to think about, right? I remember reading it somewhere and at first I thought, yeah right. But I was so intrigued by the idea that I actually started paying attention to my face during my period, and sure enough about two days before Mother Nature would come knocking on my door I would get a big fat pimple somewhere along my chin.

Regardless of the reason why we break out, break outs are real! And they have a major impact on our self-esteem. Therefore, skin care is so important. [Read more…]

Hey guys.

So, a couple of weeks ago, I was watching an episode of The Real (which I pretty much watch every day) and as usual there were some pretty interesting topics being discussed at the table during girl chat.

One topic that stood out to me the most was the topic of hair.

Now, I feel so silly just writing about this because it’s crazy how much emphasis society puts on hair. I mean it’s just hair, right? Yes, I can understand being intrigued by other peoples’ hair color and texture, but please do not be mistaken, there is a difference between admiring something and comparing.

So just a recap for those of you who do not watch The Real (shame on you!) there was a study done about hair. Specifically natural hair. There was a photo posted (on a website I think for the study) of a black woman with her hair both straightened and natural which started the conversation hair. It turns out that women who decide to wear their hair natural faced bias, specifically from white women who found it to be less sexy and attractive. [Read more…]

Guys can you believe we are already a month into the new year!?!

It seems like such a crazy thing to wrap my mind around. Especially because I feel like we just started the year (and technically we did). But 31 days have come and gone and now its time to brace ourselves for another 28 days.

I’ve always had a love/hate relationship with the month of February. I love it because Spring is on the horizon, which is my second favorite season (fall is my first). Springtime is also another season where the weather is absolutely perfect. It’s never too hot or too cold. It’s always just perfect. Which means that if come February 2 the Groundhog does not see his shadow, I’ll be able to start enjoying the beautiful weather earlier than planned (if you believe in that).

I “hate” it, which is honestly just more like despise it, because if the Groundhog does see his shadow that means I have to get through six more weeks of Winter. And anybody who knows me knows that I love Winter so long as I don’t have to be out and about it in. Sadly, that is not possible. But I’ve done it plenty of times before so if worst comes to worst, I’ll have to do it again.

But here’s to an early Spring! 🙂

I also sort of despise February because it’s also the month of love. And by love I’m talking about Valentine’s Day. [Read more…]

Alright guys this topic has been heavy on my mind lately.

Do you know anyone, or you may be one yourself, who constantly apologizes for things they should not be sorry for? And I’m talking about things like being assertive, wanting to commit to your words despite how it makes others feel, or even doing something special for yourself. Do you ever catch yourself or anyone close to your heart apologizing for things like that?

Well I do. I have to live with witnessing this process day in and day out and honestly just watching it happen is very draining. My mother is what I like to call the “sorry woman”. She apologizes for everything! And her apologies are not a straight up I’m sorry. Oh no, her apologies are more in the fashion where she feels bad about whatever it was that has made her feel this way, and then she’ll spend hours talking about it before she finally caves in.

I love my mother very much but by allowing herself to feel as though everything that happens to anybody close to her heart is her responsibility is the biggest burden she carries.

And it gets exhausting trying to communicate this fact to her. She doesn’t see individual struggles, she sees group struggles. If you have a problem, then that means she’s has a problem. If you’re going through something, she’s going through that same thing with you. Its like she has learned how to attach herself to others in a way where she’s living multiple lives and therefore she’s battling multiple battles. [Read more…]