I think it’s important to learn how to love and appreciate yourself.
In today’s society everybody is looking for validation for who they are and what defines their beauty from other people. It’s like women forgot how to value themselves and men forgot what it means to appreciate a woman. All too often beauty standards are thrown in our faces and we are expected to live up to standards set by other people. Both men and women are pressured to live up to the idea of what society has deemed beautiful and acceptable of men and women.
What happened to the individuals who knew their worth and appreciated their build?
We were all built and made differently for a reason. Our roots tell our history and our individuality tells our story. If that story was the same for everybody we wouldn’t be interesting. We wouldn’t be considered different from others (which is not a bad thing, seriously embrace your differences) and we wouldn’t have anything worth contributing to this world. We are different for a reason. When will society learn that it is our differences that make us valuable and beautiful?
If we looked like one another, or looked the way society wants us to look, there would be absolutely nothing in this world that stands out as unique.
There’s a reason why the leaves on trees change colors every season. It’s because those colors bring a different kind of beauty to the world with that particular season. There’s a reason why we do not look like everybody else, we bring a different kind of beauty to the world, and that beauty is to be acknowledge, valued, and appreciated for what it is.
Healing starts in the home, it starts with the heart. We have to teach our young children their worth. Teach them how to recognize, appreciate, and embrace their differences. Teach them that there is value in their differences. This is the starting foundation for teaching people how to love and appreciate themselves.
We don’t need approval or validation from anyone on what is considered beautiful, what makes us worth it. Instead we need to look within ourselves and understand that the only approval or validation we will ever need is the validation we give ourselves. If you accept and choose to value your differences, then you are choosing yourself over society. You are defining your own beauty, you are bringing to light your own worth, and you are choosing to set a standard for others to acknowledge and respect.
If we keep ourselves trapped in the mental cycle that it is others who define our beauty, that it is others who determines our worth, we will never be free from our demons.
The demons that haunt us and tell us we’re no good. The demons that constantly brings all our imperfections to light just to pick and prod at them.
Is this the world you want to live in? A world where you’re constantly comparing yourself to the next guy or gal? Constantly second guessing yourself about your value, about your worth? Constantly allowing others to tell you what makes you beautiful, as if their opinion has any more creditability over yours?
If this is our goal as a society, what we want for our young boys and girls, then we are doing an awesome job.
But if we want to bring princes and princesses into this world and raise them to be kings and queens, despite what your ethic culture may be, then we have to fix what’s broken. We have to correct our wrongs and allow ourselves to be independent of our demons.
Ladies and gentlemen stop comparing yourself to other men and women. Stop allowing someone else to tell you what makes you beautiful or handsome, what makes you worth it. Stop striving to live up to these ridiculous standards set by society.
We all need to learn to love and accept ourselves. Accept all the “good” and all the “bad” that encompasses our individual spirit. Accept our flaws and our imperfections. We need to learn to dance in our insecurities and how to be proud of the things that make us different. We need to learn how to love the things that make us unique.
Only then can we be free of our demons, and free to truly love and appreciate ourselves for the way we were created.
We all need to take a look inside and acknowledge the things that make us human. Appreciate the things that defines our beauty and embrace the differences that craft our personalities.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and that beholder is you.
-Xo
Kimora